QUARREL
"Do not fall in to a quarrel by calling someone bad."
Guru Nanaj Dev Ji 1469-1539
Quarrels bring grief to all those involved. No quarrel can solve a problem. Avoid such negativity and look for a positive solution to every situation you face.
When we quarrel with others, we always assume we are right through our ego. The funny thing is, quarrels are usually very trivial and can normally be resolved without getting heated. Our minds are so focussed and trained in this taste of ego, that it has become natural for us to quarrel and argue. We have virtually accepted this way of life for resolving problems.
The other day I witnessed two people quarrelling, they were having a real go at each other. When asked what they were quarrelling about and calming them both down, it ended up as a nothing issue.
We usually get heated over small issues, blow them out of proportion and end up winding each other up. When we are given time to relax, calm down and re-think the whole situation, the result and outcome is always different to the way we handled it with a hot head.
Experiencing this argument looked really bad from an outsiders point of view. Just remember this is how we look in front of others when we quarrel.
We have to learn to remain calm when someone wants to quarrel with us. Calm them down, listen to exactly what they are saying and come to a solution whilst calm.Try not to wind them up, as anger coming together always makes situations worse. This may mean walking away from the situation and asking to speak later. Relationships take many years to build, yet seconds to destroy.
Meditation on the naam, always replaces angry thoughts, in to more positive thoughts and actions.
Guru Angad Dev Ji says, "I am not good; no one is bad." So who are we quarrelling with.
Vaheguroo!
